Why Do You Go To Church????

Why do you go to church? To genuinely worship God or to fake it? Its amazing how people think everyone that goes to church are saint's. Therefore, they decide to go to church just to find that angelic wife or husband, at the end of the day they turn out with the opposite. Ahhhh! yes a celebration is going on at church with lots or food and drink's and that's when you remember to go to church???? Some of us totally deceive ourselves by going to church just to see what fake shoe joy is wearing that Sunday and laugh about it or how the pimple's on john's face has made him uglier. Imagine, those that go to church and end up sleeping. Some of us would look from face to face of each person at church (ARE YOU A CENSUS VOLUNTEER?)

A "church" is a place for religious christian activities not for deceiving one self. Some of us would break dance to the offering box and creep walk back just so the preacher can notice your presence (HOW'S THAT GOING TO PLEASE GOD?) some of us would make church contributions and decide to announce it to the whole congregation (WHY???) A couple of us would wear our club outfits to the church just to do fashion parade (IT'S NOT A FASHION SHOW!!!) For those of us that are thieves and we know we are going to steal tomorrow yet we still come to church to ask for forgiveness, SORRY! to disappoint you but God knows the faithful. It's not just by showing up at church but you need to believe from within.

Are you just a "church goer" or A true christian? Isn't it better to stay at home rather than go to church and make a fool out of yourself?? do not force yourself to go to church when you have an evil mind. Why not start by praying indoors. when you have decided to be a better person then you can go to church and be renewed.

Go to church with a genuine mind.

Know Your Limit!

HAPPY SUNDAY! hope we all went to church? 

I was out and about yesterday and o my! what i experienced seemed like a movie, A young man basically tormented my life obviously under the influence of alcohol , i literally had to leave that spot just because of him, it seemed like if i did not give him my digits he would commit suicide..

On my way out, i experienced a drunk lady pass out just at her vehicle door, she was being rubbed of all she had in her purse and the vehicle was taken as well, i couldn't help in anyway even if i tried. 

All i could do was imagine how she would feel when she woke up from her slumber.

"ALCOHOL!" beer,wine or spirit they are all the same. Some of us need alcohol to have fun, cant we have fun without it? Some of us would go to the club, pop 20 bottles of champagne and sign tabs, at the end of the day we are being pursued to pay (IS IT BY FORCE?). some men need it for confidence just to talk to a girl and they end up stumbling because they overtake it(SO WHAT'S THE POINT???). Some of us would not stop drinking till we vomit or pass out...ahh is it that serious?! We would drink alcohol and not put the negative side effects into consideration. What it could cause to our bodies?? diabetes,liver/heart issues,stroke,fertility and immune system issues,cancer,memory loss,High Blood Pressure,,even death, just to mention a few..

We do not need alcohol to survive! (IT IS NOT BLOOD!) okay,fine...You end up at a social gathering...You can have alcohol but know your limit! do not binge and become the FOOL of the party thinking your the LIFE of the party.

I mean so many deaths have been caused by high consumption of alcohol, alcohol is not the problem,  we are the problem, (ALCOHOL WOULD NOT JUMP UP TO YOUR MOUTH) we pick it up  ourselves. Drunk driving? Its just terrible,,just because you decide to have fun for a night you drive straight into an electric pole. Why????? Is it worth dying for? NO!!! Alcohol would forever exist ,,whether your alive or dead, It does not care about you.

Know your limit and drink wisely, if we could do this the world would be a better place.

KeepItBalanced.

HAPPY WEEKENDDD!

HAPPY WEEKEND!!!!!WOOOOHOOOOOOO,,.LET THE PARTY BEGIN!

Although i am not in the right state of mind and in a lot of pains, i just wanted to wish everyone a happy weekend.

Lets not see the weekend as an excuse to over drink and get multiple hangovers..know your limit and drink accordingly. Don't drink and drive recklessly,don't over eat or sleep, do everything and anything moderately.

CHEERS TO THE FREAKING WEEKEND!

KeepItBalanced

"Disappointment" Today "Greatness" Tomorrow

So we all hear "Every disappointment is a blessing" This is indeed a true fact. Each time we get disappointed welcoming doors open. Disappointment,when we get dissatisfied due to failure of our expectations.

One great problem with us is we "Expect" tooo much from our fellow humans,"its either you expect Juliet to act in a certain way"or "john to be the perfect man" or "your boss to be perfect". Once this doesn't happen we feel sad and dissatisfied meanwhile we are the cause.

"When you have expectations you have set yourself for disappointment"

How to get over disappointment?? we definitely would have a couple of disappointments as we are not in anyway perfect. Here are a few steps to move on from "disappointment":

Let your feelings out: Talk,write,sing...do whatever suits you to get that feeling of anger and sadness out. 

Reassure yourself: this disappointment wouldn't matter in some time,,it would become "History"keep telling yourself this. 

Grateful: Become grateful for the positive side of your life, be thankful your problems are not worse than they are, i mean at least your not dead. 

Take time out: Take a chill pill, relax your mind and body,physical activities would also help, but do not take forever relaxing"IT CANT BE THAT SERIOUS".

STOP "EXPECTING": you need to stop having high expectations,this would prevent disappointment,"do not think all of a sudden your going to fly tomorrow" 

Accept: accept you have been in the state of disappointment, make it an episode of your past and start creating new future plans.

Open to opportunities: Just because you got disappointed doesn't mean its the end of the world, don't hold back on taking other chances.

 While you get over disappointment you can indulge yourself in reading inspirational books as well as watching TV series of your interest, Create new hobbies!

Lets keep our Hopes high, no condition is permanent.

Be Active...

Okay,,bonjour,,i wouldn't focus on any topic at the moment.Why??? cause i have a date this morning.Who??well...with Ceejay. For those of us that read my article on "exercise" should know Ceejay by now.

This morning,i would just advice us to be active,,i know!Today is Friday!!!, there's going to be a lot of activeness at the club while drinking alcohol, so can we really call that healthy activeness? NO! Ladies, you wouldn't wear that short fitted dress to the club with a bulge now, would you?guys, at least let there be a bit of biceps showing when you put on that tight polo,"WINK WINK"

So let this be a little inspiration for us to keep fit while i go do my thing....

#TeamNoExcuse 

Think Before You S***

Up early for some reason and what came to mind is "cleanliness". So he approached me and my word! that ooze made me say "NO" before he could even ask me out,,it was very unique, smelt basically like what he had eaten in the past month ,it was soo strong it made me feel nauseated. Couldn't spare him a chance,his probably wondering why????but i suspect he has issues with his sense of smell,,cause if not he would have ran away from himself.

Are you that girl that goes to the pool side confidently in a bikini without a bikini wax or shaved armpit?are you that man that has that negative intense smell that commands unwanted attention once you walk into the bank?that lady or man that cant keep a relationship cause you stink?if yes" 

Now listen!!!!!

"Cleanliness is indeed next to Godliness"i mean who wants to be sent to hell cause they stink?well if you don't want that you have to be clean all round, not just on the outside but in the inside, start by detoxing your mind,body as well as your "CONTACT LIST!"HEHE

okay,your saying deodorants are expensive?common! you eat worth more than the price of  one deodorant that can last you a month,each day. I am sure you want to be famous but not because of that smell you have produced, i mean who could be a better inventor of odour than you?!

As for those that wash their hands while wearing gloves or wash your measuring cup with soap and water after measuring water.STOP DECEIVING YOURSELF! you are not CLEAN!!! you are just not thinking. soo many incidents whereby some of us are not given the chance to talk because we have a mouth of gutter, don't you want to be heard? Being clean,you also have to pick out the right diets and NO!!! eating KFC or MAMAPUT everyday is not it,bless your fridge with all types of nutrients,carbs,protein,veg,....and never eat 1 form of nutrient everyday! Keep your diet balanced also have at least a glass of water first thing every morning along side an apple or whatever fruit of your choice instead of chocolates,this doesn't just make your digestion faster it also keeps your skin fresh. Your environment needs to be clean for you to remain clean,partake in daily cleaning,if not possible everyday at least two times a week.

Just like "Exercise"i do not believe anyone has an excuse to stink. Now here are some tips to follow just to simply be clean:Shower:shower! and shower well, i don't mean go in the bath and do a 1 second scrub,wash all those hidden parts of your body with enough lather. Brush your teeth:i mean some of us forget to brush before going to work and you wonder why john and stella are running from you? look for a good quality tooth paste not just any random one because so many fake ones are being produced. Wash hands:washing of hands is very important,,after meals(your not going to eat beans with your hands and touch someone now,are you?),toilet,or playing in the mud just keep washing your hands, it can never be enough. Deodorants/moisturizing :BUY ONE DEODORANT! at least make an effort it cant be as expensive as what you eat,its needed to make you have a pleasant scent,if you can add a bottle of perfume to it that would be fab, it doesn't have to be gucci you know...also keep your skin moisturized to avoid looking scaly(YOUR NOT A FISH)Laundry:you need to do your laundry,do not i repeat do not repeat clothing especially when you have sweat dried all over it, even if you are a janitor or security by job and your going to sweat while working anyway don't use that as an excuse please. Diet:Eat right,,keep your diet balanced..and that's not by eating rice everyday! common now STOP!picking your nose and playing with the "BUGGA" in public or privacy use tissue or handkerchief and the whole armpit and private organ scratching thing needs to stop.

All in all,,if we love ourselves as much as we claim we would not walk into the road of our embarrassments.

Get Over "Heartbreak"NOW!!!

Trust me! its just "time" you need and you would be over "Heartbreak" but lets not overuse time,you don't want to take forever getting over this,right? Okay,enough crying, some of us would cry a river for decades. Bottom line you are allowed to mourn for 24HR's! after that GET IT TOGETHER!

You think over feeding is going to help? WRONG MOVE! you are just going to be fat, "DAZ HALLL"(that's all) is that what you need?what you need is the opposite which is "Exercise"

some of us want to ask God"why oooo why God?"some of us would commit several suicide attempts,there's nothing more painful than failed suicide attempts...it doesn't make sense trying to kill yourself cause you got dumped!NO!! you are not Jesus Christ that died for us(humans),do not! i repeat DO NOT!!!some of us would hug the properties and pictures of our EX's even when we know they have moved on,WHY???This is when you burn and throw all that past episodes away!its all History at that point.

Yeah Yeah,you guys might reunite but for now you are not together!!! if you happen to get back together let it be a renewed relationship.

After a break up,its time to glow up, look your best,fix yourself up,if you had the supposed issue then become a better person. here are a few steps to take:

Therapy:talk to people with positive outlook on life,could be your family or close friends or even a well trained Therapist. Social life:go out,have fun,go on dates but do not make the other party take you too seriously as its too soon to begin another serious relationship, especially when you just got out of a long term relationship,that person you all of a sudden "think" you might like would end up as "REBOUND"so beware!this "dating"is just to improve your confidence not to deceive other's.

Outlook:change your wardrobe if possible,fix your hair up,remember you are doing all these for yourself and not for your EX. Focus on moving on:find something to shift your thoughts from the heartbreak be it Tennis,basket ball,movies,reading etc... Accept it:once you accept "ITS OVER" you are good to go,you would begin to see it as an experience you passed through. Be positive,let all you think about be positive! With all this advice's in place,i mean it would not be easy but Jack and John tried them and it WORKED!

If you and your EX are meant to be,Destiny would surely do something about it, don't go about bugging him/her. I mean,if you have never passed through heartbreak,,are you sure you have a heart???

Focus on loving yourself!

Control your Money!

MONEY MONEY.......Many of us do extremely crazy things for money,we go to the extent of stealing what was earned by others through their sweats,some of us would deal in body parts trade. Here's me thinking whatsoever happened to spare parts trade?is it not enough?????

Some of us would gladly render sexual services with our bodies to every Jack,Thomas,Cynthia......then claim we were rapped after not getting the sum we requested. At the end of the day you use that money paid to you in sorting hospital bills for one STD or the other,,,Tell me,,what have you saved??is that a loss or gain???LOSS!

If and only if, we would give our "Thinking chairs"a chance to be used. Seat down,give your brain a chance to be used, Come up with ideas and take a chance TODAY! Put enough efforts like you would if it were stealing,market whatever idea you come up with,sell the idea to investors and customers,let this idea make soo much sense it becomes surprising to others how a human being could think of such an idea.

Some of us have ideas"but all we do is talk about it from 1991-2014 without taking action,probably expecting the idea to take action itself(YOUR IDEA IS NOT HUMAN!). There are other options to making money, we don't have to downgrade ourselves and yet have no savings at the end of the day.

Some of us with complete body parts are begging on the streets..why???when minor jobs could be applied for,saving us from the stress of walking from street to street in all weather conditions just for change. Those of us that are so selfish that all we want to do is "steal"Trust me! one day is for the owner..

I know we all want the best cars,diamonds and other good material things of life but lets calm our nerves,think before taking any drastic actions that would probably affect you negatively in the long run.

For our people that spend money recklessly ,calm down you don't need to spend all your money on popping champagne at clubs just to get the attention of the ladies,,or overspend on a chanel bag, everyday becomes "a shopping vacation". This things are best done once in  a while. There's nothing more important than saving your money in the financial aspect of life.

Keep your head up,take a chance today!

We would control money,so it doesn't control us!!!

"Success" Depends on you!

I know,i know..i am sorry i dint drop an article yesterday"sign of a great weekend"hehe". Did you go to church though?i sure did and it was fabulous! With the priest trying to be a comedian.

Today, because most schools for our younger ones have resumed i decided to write on "Education".Education,a form of accumulating knowledge whereby skills and habits are passed across from generation to generation.we have the Preschool,primary,secondary,college/university levels of education.

Most of us are opportune to pass through all this stages without any hustle,the rest of us are not. some of us end at the "secondary"stage which is clearly not always by choice but due to certain condition's either we want to focus on talent development or we cant just afford it. 

Education is key but not everyone that goes through all levels of education turn out successful. Some of us that don't complete all educational levels still turn out pretty well. Some of us complete all stages of education but cant still get a decent job!its either your cv's(you probably spent days fixing it up)are slapped right back at you or your told"we would get back to you shortly"just for hope sake.

Nowadays its mostly about "knowing someone that know's someone" So here's me wondering is there a school that teaches "someone how to know someone that know's someone"???i wouldn't mind enrolling in that system..hahahhahah. If we cannot afford expanding our education lets focus on "handwork" or "talent development" what can you do best?"can u bake,or sew?" whats your talent"can you sing or dance?"lets look for means to be perfect with what we are blessed with..just imagine making money from what you enjoy doing that's "double trouble"competition for others as well as double blessing for you! "I become a physical trainer, i keep getting hotter and fit while making money"i become a singer,i enjoy myself and make money"

A level of education is obviously needed for us to know how to communicate.."Why has you not went there?where went you?"O NO! Believe you me,that embarrassment you would get "no get part2"so be focused while you get the chance to grab any little form of education "not just go to school to laugh at others or form gangs" Lets not walk into the street of our own embarrassment.

With or Without Education your "Success"depends on you!

Are we "Exercising" or "Deceiving"????

So,i am currently at the gym,and decided to write on "Exercise" today. Why do we deceive ourselves???

Most of us go to the gym for "show"meaning you get there,set dumbbells by your side and snap selfies and tag #workingoutthingz. At the end of the day its your "Loss!"you pay all that gym fee just to go and deceive yourself? Just buy all the gym equipment's/machines stay home and keep deceiving yourself.

Lets not wait for Mr/Mrs" Obesity"before we even consider stretching our bones. A lady on the "BIG"side just walked in with an apple in hand, not just that but properly decked out for the gym. Here's me thinking "Go girl, that's the spirit,1 second later she was gone!

When people hear the word "Exercise"all sorts of excuses would be produced, "i am naturally fat, people start coursing their generations "fatness is permanently in my family"they would even show you pictures of their fore fathers. more excuses "My granddad made me depressed so food became my bestie""my boo dumped me so i became a glutton" girl pleaseeee your boo be chilling by the pool side with a sexy mama by his side".

For the slim ones,don't dare think you don't need exercise! Its not just for loosing weight,it helps to keep you fit both mentally, health wise and physically toned. For the curvy ones, lets keep our curves stable and intact/firm!! Ladies,flab's is not sexy. Guy's,please get rid of that pot belly you are not pregnant!as soon as you realize that the better for you, As for your man boobs,,,that needs to turn to firm chest.

My people,sexy/healthy and fit is confidence,in that state you can wear whatever you like and feel comfortable in your skin, Lets give our swim suits a chance to love being on us and not hide under our flab's. For those of us that say"i workout at home"and the only part of you that works out is your "mouth"three times daily, O!Sorry for you. For the "oversabis"aka "over doers" yeah! our people that shout and make noise while working out"ARGGGG,,,YHHHH,,,,BABYYY,,COMMONN",KEEP IT GOING! "your head is dya(there)"hahaha..

I call my workout days "A date with Ceejay" that's my trainers name..don't we all love to have dates with our trainers???

"Good music"is a great inspiration while working out"guys be shaking their hands and moving their necks like they about to throw rap punch line's". People,because we are going to the gym and going to sweat anyway, doesn't mean we should not use "Deodorant" common! if not for yourself do it for others,lets encourage people to come to the gym not try to kill them on their first trial. Clean all surfaces of gym machines and equipment before use "EBOLA"is real.

Let "Exercise" be part of loving and spoiling ourselves, We deserve the best body and balanced health. Exercise is not easy, Yes i know but keep trying it would become fun plus you get top laugh at different dance moves and body movements..hahahahahaha.

TeamNoExcuse!

Let Them Work For Your "Trust"

The other day,i was at the passport office.I gave my "Trust" to an "area boy" as they are being called to help me renew my passport,he had smartness all over his face so i gave him the benefit of the doubt,he effortlessly disappointed me and skipped work the next day.The following day he showed up and i was like"IV GOTCHYA NOW"he looked soooo sorry but i couldn't fall for that act" anymore.......this young man wasn't thinking of what this "aunty"as they call me could do for him in the long run he just wanted it alll NOW NOW!

We tend to trust those not worthy of our trust,they end up misbehaving or turning us down.

What about this?"lets not expect perfection (Trust wise)from anyone" doing that, disappointment to us would be nonexistent. We must trust our banks o!,,personally i would be sooo disappointed if am being told",Madam,all your savings are lost"HEHE"

I trusted my car yesterday and it messed me up big time,all trust is gone..i mean that's why i am writing from my car,,i have to warm it every morning from today.

Lets give 99 and half percent of our "trust" to God and then consider giving the remnant to Human. 

"Intense/Sexual Relationship wise" without "Trust" O girl/boy your relationship is just starting"No offence"but it is a key factor in every strong and everlasting relationship along side happiness and love. Good thing" is "Trust" can develop with time but in cases were it never does,,what do you do? when there's no "Trust" questions like"where are you?who is that?what is her/his hand doing on your neck?who are you talking to and the most killing statement "LET ME SEE YOUR PHONE" those questions/statement become the only music you listen to.

No "Trust"atalll! is better than having "Trust"and loosing it...it becomes like a cracked mirror you try to glue together,,my brother's and sister's "IT CAN NEVER BE THE SAME!"

Trust is hard to come by for most people,they tend to have a tight circle of friends, in most cases that could be the best option!ahh what have we not seen with supposed friends in this life??

We could give people "The benefit of the doubt"put them to test constantly, your "Trust"is not cheap...They must work "HARD" to gain it!

I have put my trust on cab drivers for years, they never failed to disappoint me up to the extent that when there's no disappointment i become disappointed. It becomes a surprise!I BECOME AMAZED!

I don't see myself developing "Trust" for mechanics though all they call is "money money madam money" 

Most of ALL! We must "Trust"ourselves first! create that kind of self you would want to go to the movies and romantic dates with,that self you can be happy to live with all your life!

Don't "Think" your in "Love" . "Know" your in "Love".

"Love is not something you find.Love is something that finds you".

If you "think" your in love,,don't get too carried away.You need to "know" you are in love not just "Think"it.

I believe in love..and when i say "love"i don't mean that love you can purchase with cash. NO!

We have the"Platonic love"Family love"and the "Intense/sexual love".

Now,our focus is on the "Intense/sexual love"you know that love that leads to "happily ever after"?That's the love am talking about people. Love is more of positive than negative.Love is kind,peace,loyalty,respect,faithfulness,mature(not for babies) and most of all it is "happiness"

Love has no rules and regulations, most times you hear"Don't show him/her how much you love him/her or they would take you for granted""cook for them o,break your neck while cleaning the house o" OOOO PLEASE! Real Love can handle a persons real character,with real love you are allowed to be just the way you are no rules and regulations attached! After those so called "love rules" are disobeyed if it is"love"it would remain for eternity.

"Love"is a two way thing,you love him/her and not getting it back in full package?tell me,are you glued with super glue or dried eba?

O!how much i would want that old school love back,when a broke guy could date the prettiest girl and the Ladies wouldn't care if you drive a "White Range Rover 2014" with black rims before they would date you.

A percentage of women nowadays would not date a guy with a (lekpa) aka empty bank account.A percentage of men believe all women including Favour, Laide, Enitan,Dire, Busola are after their account, even those with empty account's still have the guts to have same belief.

A percentage of men/women would say"i cheat on "le boo"(abi)or "la boo" but i still love him/her, O NO! that is not anywhere close to "Real Love". Let's not use the word "love"for granted,lets not fool or deceive one another.You know its not love so why pretend???

Most importantly "love yourself first, you are top priority!"

With all these being said,,don't expect Mr or Mrs "RIGHT" to come all the way from, Ogun state or United State to your door step."HEHE"

"Fear" The Enemy of Talent Development.

What are we really afraid of?...is it the crowd, that's clearly made up of fellow human beings as yourself? is it the competition?What exactly?

Is Talent development important?Hell yes! Most times we hold back on doing what we love just because we are afraid of "Failure"

Imagine a case were "you know how to sing in the bathroom but not on a stage..umm"is that how you want to develop your talent?NO!!!

We need to conquer our fears by going for lessons,practicals,inspirational talks.....I mean if that's what it takes. Why not??? With life there's a great deal of hope.

We would not waste the natural endowment God has given to us

"Practice makes perfect"

I personally believe i have a singing talent, i practice daily. I have set my goal and trust me once am good to go i would be all over soft and hard copy pages "HEHE".

let the auditions Begin, baby!

WELCOME!!!!! TO BalancedLivingWithNia

"Life is like riding a bicycle,to keep your balance you must keep moving"says Albert Einstein.

life is basically as simple as it can be, but we as humans make it complicated.Why do we make life so complicated? Thereby creating negative vibes. We can simply keep it balanced, if you would take part in this journey with a goal of achieving our balanced lives. As life goes on we are likely to neglect one part or the other of our lives, which is very common.This needs to stop!!!

Spiritually,lets pray,worship,sing praises and go to church together

Emotionally,lets cry,laugh and be happy together.

Physically,we are going to get those abs and tight ass together "wink wink".

Mentally,we would think in every positive direction together and trust me getting enough rest daily would enable us do this.

Socially,i know you like to party!!!for those of us that party alone, your not alone anymore,we are creating a party of our own here. Mixing up with our fellow beings is very key.

Financially,open several accounts because your money would not be able to fit in just one account anymore"hehe".

We are balancing our lives together.As i help you,you would help me."Two heads are better than one"

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